The following was a writing assignment for a developmental psych course that I took back in the summer of '05. The course focused on the stages of development of an embryo up to the adolescent years. I saved it because I knew I would need it one day. Maybe you too.
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This course has left me with much sage advice on how to handle, treat, take care of, and interact with children. For instance, without this class, I would not have known how to praise children: their effort, not their intelligence. If failure occurs in children, this method would reduce the chance of them thinking that they are incapable of mastering the task because they would feel their intelligence is fixed. Praising their effort, however, will foster them to keep trying until they accomplish the task. Likewise, I would not have known to express concerns about their negative actions rather than falsely labeling who they are from what they did. For example, if the child continually, but accidentally wets the bed, it would be more appropriate to say, "You wet the bed; let's clean it up," instead of "You are such a trouble maker!"
Because I believe in a healthy lifestyle, I can surreptitiously instill my eating habits onto my children by treating fruits as desserts and vegetables as snacks. A simple sentence, "We'll have oranges for dessert," will get children to have the mindset that fruits and vegetables are "goodies," instead of chips, candy, and other junk food. And, as I learned from Dr. Noll, I would have to steal the line, "You don't have to like it, but you have to at least eat one."
Obviously, the key to getting rid of a bad habit in children is to ignore the habit. But most parents give in and the key is not to give in. I would not have known that intermittently reinforcing the habit is horrible such that it will never help the child to rid the habit.
I will try my best to adopt the ways of an authoritative parenting style to promote a healthy emotional development of the child. I can do this by expressing lots of love and at the same time, be very demanding. To facilitate their language and cognitive development, I would ask open-ended questions such that they could not reply with a plain yes or no. Also, an important part of their development is providing support, such as social scaffolding. To do this, I would aid their thinking along the way. Most importantly, it would be very important for me to be a very good role model because children imitate actions more than what they are told.